The Wifey Life

We have now been married for 3 whole months!
Its a very strange feeling, to think of how our lives have completely changed.

As explained in my ‘about’ page, the transition from fiance to wife has been quite a trip! Imagine one of those old school hanging scales. Now imagine both being empty and then suddenly filling the one up, and the scale tips over….Thats pretty much how my life changed since I said “I do”.


Now don’t get me wrong, I am most definitely not complaining about being married…I love it!! I get to see the man of my dreams every waking day (finally!) Its just different, that’s all. We both went in with our eyes closed and now they are slowly opening up…

Before the 13th April 2013 I was just chilling. Going to work, sometimes I would go to gym or dance class after, then back home, waited for my mom to cook dinner, and then I would eat. Now there is no time for lounging around. I have to cook and clean myself.
This has been a challenging experience, to the point of many tears and self loathing episodes. Within these past few months I have felt worthless and stupid, but I have also had moments where I felt proud of myself, and utterly amazed!

I have learnt that I am capable of looking after myself, our home and caring for my husband. I have also learnt that my husband is still exactly the same man I fell in love with – he still leaves his slippers and pyjamas lying around..(etc…)
BUT most importantly, I have learnt that we are in this together and that we are both new to this. Rome wasn’t built in a day, they say. And unfortunately, I forget that 99% of the time. I want things done now, I want to be a master chef now!


I thank God for blessing me with a loving husband, who keeps me grounded and reminds me about my faults, my strengths and our hopes and goals for the future.

By the way, I am up for Bride of the Year 2013. I need your help though! If you live in South Africa, please do vote for me 🙂



The Final Wedding Post

I have decided that my wedding blog deserves a final post, a post to end this journey and hopefully be a good start to something new. I love blogging too much to let it go, so I am going to continue (but obviously not blogging about my wedding..)

It’s been 10 and a half weeks, almost 3 months, since I married my soulmate on the 13th April. There are days where I still daydream about our perfect day and how it all unfolded after all my stressful planning and sleepless nights..
It was a big task, there’s no sugar coating it. Wedding planning ain’t easy! ESPECIALLY if you are a control freak like me 🙂

Our wedding was a vintage elegance affair. I didn’t want a theme as such, I wanted our special day to be memorable and reflect Brendon and I.
I immediately knew I wanted to use lace and pearls as decor elements. I later decided to pair the lace and pearls with pops of pastels – roses and pretty flowers in shades of pastel, and our guests were asked to wear something pastel.
The result was a soft, vintage and romantic look and feel!

wedding blog strip

The morning of my wedding was really stressful for me. We (bridesmaids and my mom) woke up at about 5am to get ready. We started running late in between having our hair and make up done, and this made me panic a bit. I struggled to eat. I had to force a piece leftover pizza down my throat. Fainting on my big day was NOT an option.
When it was time to put my wedding dress on, I was a wreck! My bridesmaids tried to help me put it on, but no success. I was on edge!
Luckily our videographer, Andrew, stepped in and took control – he stood on a chair with my dress, held it above me, told me to lift up my arms, and he just slid it on over me. Like it was the hundredth time he’d done it (..well maybe it was).
After that things started to smooth out. My hair and make up was done, I was in my dress, and it was time for champagne 🙂

I arrived at the church LATE, I was furious as this was the last thing I wanted to happen. We said “I do” in an old quaint Catholic church. Our nuptial mass was beautiful – traditional, but modern. It was well received by our guests and everyone wanted to know about the funny Archbishop Lawrence Henry!

Our reception venue in Hout Bay – Monchique, is an old barn style building nestled in a lovely lush garden. Very vintage, rustic and romantic! Our guests enjoyed mingling outside under a thatched roof as they nibbled on snacks and drank cocktails. I had exactly ONE snack and TWO cocktails, and that was it..
We then moved inside to the reception area, which looked STUNNING. I was so happy with the way everything gelled together. My decor ideas and the flowers looked unbelievable.
Lunch was awesome, and our cake was magical 🙂

My husband and I are still on cloud 9, enjoying every moment together on our new path. We constantly talk about our wedding day and everything that we are grateful for. Its been more than 6 years, and we are finally united forever!
Its not an easy journey, things are still very new to us, but we are in it for the long run! Nothing can prepare you for married life, it sure is something else! We are taking it one day at a time and learning all the time..

Our wedding day was exceptional and I will always remember how I felt like a Princess for a day! I wish I could do it all over again…

Please check out our wedding preview video:



Our amazing photographer, Mark Engelbrecht has posted some of our wedding photos on his blog and facebook!! 🙂

We should be receiving our photo disk soon.

Here are some of my favourites:

I will be blogging soon about all our wonderful suppliers – Photographer, Videographer, Florist, Venue, Cake, Dress, Shoes…everything!
Our wedding would not have been as beautiful without the help of all these committed and talented people!

Carla Satram

Post Wedding Glow

Its been about 2.5 weeks since our wedding…and what a day it was!

During my planning process, a few newly married women all told me the same thing: “Make sure you relax so that you can enjoy your day – it goes by so fast!”
They weren’t kidding. The day literally went by in a flash!

The last 2 weeks leading up to the wedding was really emotional for me.
A few family members confirmed that they would not be coming to my wedding. People I grew up with. Someone I considered one of my best friends decided that she wasn’t going to be a part of the most special day in my life. It crushed me. I am still incredibly disappointed in her, but I realise that I can’t change other people or help them if they don’t want it. But I can pray for them.

Besides that, I struggled to eat or sleep. In a way I was kind of relieved that I wasn’t eating. Everyone kept telling me I was going to lose weight, and it was beginning to piss me off because I hadn’t lost a single centimetre! So when the infamous “bridal weightloss” finally happened, I managed to lose a measly 2 kgs…lol.
Needless to say, I gained it all back over our honeymoon! 🙂

Our honeymoon was fantastic. Just what the doctor ordered – some well needed resting time together. We had an awesome time in sunny Robertson and Montagu! We decided to have a local honeymoon (cheaper), and perhaps travel overseas next year.

And before anymore people ask us about babies…No, we won’t be having any anytime soon!

Brendon and I are almost 100% settled into our new apartment. Its been a big adjustment for both of us since we didn’t live together before, and we are used to having our moms cook and clean for us…But we are adjusting for sure! One step at a time, we’ll be pros at this marriage business soon!
For me, its a bit of a jump to cook everyday. I am most certainly not used to it (and the time it takes to make a meal…WTF!), but I am enjoying experimenting in the kitchen. I am just going to have to learn to manage my time..

So far so good, we are loving living together and learning from each other. Its been a long wait and we are finally here. After 5 years of dating and over a year of wedding planning, we are married!!

Thank you so much to everyone who came to our wedding and shared in our love and friendship for each other. It was a beautiful day and it all came together with the presence of our guests 🙂
We are so grateful for your well wishes and gifts.
A big shout out goes to Archbishop Henry! (Yes, a shout out!) Everyone has been asking us about this happy, funny, down to earth man! Our nuptial mass was amazing and we are truly blessed. Thank you Lord for all our rewards and blessings.

Photos coming soon, I will upload as soon as I get them! Sneak peek below from our awesome photographer Mark Engelbrecht! (the last pic)



Wedding 2011 – Wedding 2013

Brendon and I got engaged in October 2011.
At the time, we couldn’t afford to start our wedding planning immediately. So Pinterest really helped me with ideas & inspiration…

Initially I was confused. I wasn’t the type of girl who dreamed about a fairytale wedding. I didn’t fantasize about walking down the aisle in a Princess dress either. So this whole experience has really been an eye opener for me, a true magical journey.

Back in early 2012, when I was able to brainstorm and choose elements of the wedding, lace and pearls naturally came to the forefront.
I have always had a fascination with all things vintage. You won’t find me in vintage clothing, but I have always admired old buildings, works of art, beautiful hollywood stars (before we had plastic surgery..), and of course old tales of adventure and mystery…


Our theme of “Vintage Elegance” combines old with new (rustic with sparkly!). I really wanted a clean theme without too much work, and the lace and pearls really brings it all together.

I have changed our flowers and cake design about 1000 times (no kidding), so this process of planning has really brought every bit of indecisiveness out of me…
The main change I made for the wedding was our star colour. My original choice was Salmon. Now it is Teal.

Bridesmaids dresses will be dressed in Teal, as well as the Bestmen’s ties and hankies. Pops of Teal at our reception, but mainly White, Ivory and Pastels.
Of course, Pastels also acts as the guests dress code.
I am looking forward to seeing a sea of pastel shades, its going to make stunning photos!

My wedding hair and make up trials have been successful, my wedding dress is being altered and bridesmaids dresses will be ready this weekend. The men have booked their suits and Brendon's suit is being altered…The Groom still has a few very important tasks to complete though….(tick tock Brendon)

Its very strange to think that its been about 1.5yrs of planning and waiting (and 5 years before that..) But very rewarding, I will probably cry at the sight of our venue on the day, dressed up with my choice of flowers and decor…I cannot wait.

We have a few things to still wrap up (mainly planning our wedding ceremony), but other than that it will hopefully be smooth sailing from here on out!

This weekend, we P A R T Y! Can’t wait to see what my girls have up their sleeves…. 🙂
Oh, and its Brendon’s Bachelor party too…we all know what guys do for Bachelors Parties lol…(same thing since 1925..) 😛

Just 11 DAYS to go! Chills down my spine….I am going to be a WIFE!


Struggling to Commit

It has been a manic past few weeks….I love my blog, so to neglect it for so long has been totally unintentional!

I will be starting my new job soon, so I have been super busy. Brendon is quite busy too with his studies. We hardly have time to just relax together anymore 😦
I have had a few days to finalise the last few wedding tasks….It has not been easy!

I got myself in a tizz last week when trying to decide between vases at the hiring company. Then the sight of flowers at the florist made my brain turn to mush…!!
A vase is a vase right? And flowers aren’t hard to pick right? WRONG.
Today is the day though – I have just confirmed my final order with the hiring company, and I am off to the florist to finalise with them now…

A few weeks ago, after searching for what feels like a year, I found my wedding shoes 🙂 Well, one pair that could be my wedding shoes…
I found them at the Errol Arendz sale. Gorgeous satin champagne coloured sandals!
Then the next day, I was casually walking around in the mall. I went into Truworths, SALE – the poster screamed out at me. And behold, I found teal satin sandals on sale! TEAL, our wedding colour, and on SALE. I bought them. Obviously.
Then one week went by, and I found the most beautiful satin champagne shoes at Aldo. I bought them (well, my husband-to-be paid).
Now I have 3 pairs of wedding shoes 🙂

wedding shoes

A few days ago I was on a mission to find teal satin ribbon for the invitations. After 4 hours of driving up and down Cape Town, it seemed like Mission Impossible. Considering that this wasn’t the first time I was looking for this dreaded teal ribbon, I was beginning to lose hope!
Luckily, I managed to find the ribbon at the end of the day (probably at the 30th place I looked at). Teal ribbon is scratched off the list!
All my decor / DIY items have now been hired or bought.
New cupcake samples will be collected tomorrow, and invitations are going out this week!

We are almost there….
6 weeks to go!!


Wedding Hair

I am at a stage now where I can finally seriously think about my wedding hair and make up.
There are many things that you can plan a year in advance (like finding the perfect venue), but the little things like hair and make up, has to wait till the furthest possible time.

I’ve had a few ideas about the kind of ‘look’ I’d want for my wedding day. I am definitely leaning towards having my hair up, with my bridesmaids having their hair tied up somehow. Of course, Janeel has short hair, so I thought it would look odd if Caryn and Genine had their hair loose…

hair post

I am on the lookout for some cute hair diamante/pearls to complete our hairdos!
We are going to look so pretty 🙂

12 weeks left!